It is safe to admit that nowadays, it is quite easy to find and go on a date. Unlike in the past when it takes much to muster up the courage to ask someone out in person or even through a letter, technology made it easy by making it as simple as pressing the send button on an SMS, an email or a social media message. Dating sites make it a whole lot easier too. With that being said, it is true that today, finding a date and going out a first date with someone is indeed easy. What’s challenging though is how you can win that second, third and fourth date and so on.
So you can have more chances to get another date with a person you’re going out with the first time, you should watch what you do on the first date. It’s not like you’re not allowed to be yourself and act naturally because this is still the best way to go – and if he or she doesn’t like it, that’s his/her problem and not yours. It’s always easy to get another date anyway until you find the person that’s meant for you. However, if the person you’re going out with is someone you are deeply attracted to and you don’t want to risk the chance of being on a date at another time once or many times more, there are things that you should or should not do. Read on and find out the things we highly recommend that you should NOT do on your first date.
1. Do not be arrogant.
Arrogance and being a show-off is a definite turn off. Whether you’re a man or woman, there’s nothing really to like about arrogance. Try your best to be as humble as you can – don’t go over the top too because it might come across as fake. While it’s okay to say what you do, it isn’t necessary to talk about your long list of achievements, especially on the first date.
2. Do not talk about sensitive issues.
Sensitive issues include politics, religion, homosexuality (unless you’re a gay couple going out on a first date), current issues that are controversial, etc. Talk about like in general instead. Talk about yourselves, again without being too arrogant. Contradicting opinions and views might just make you lose the chance for that second date.
3. Do not show up unprepared.
Finally, you should not show up unprepared. Take a little more time choosing the right clothes to wear and setting your hair – no need to go to the salon because there’s nothing that a reliable hair dryer and brush cannot do for you. Don’t push it too much though. If you’re going out when the sun is still up, don’t wear your evening dress and full makeup. If you’re going on a casual restaurant, don’t show up wearing a suit. Prepare to look good but don’t go too hard on it.
4. Do not talk about your past relationships.
Unless you are asked, go ahead and say something about your ex. However, don’t go into details. Nobody wants to hear you go on and on about how bad or awesome your ex was, on your first date.
5. Do not share your real feelings yet – if you already have feelings.
Some people have serious feelings already about the other on a first date. If you’re one of those, don’t say it out loud yet. Tell him or her you love her already and you might just send signals that you’re a creep.